Online Pagan life rewards display. A carefully arranged altar photographs better than a quiet habit, and certainty is much easier to post than doubt. Spend long enough looking at it and Paganism begins to resemble a room in which everybody has brought their best cloak.
Away from the photograph, practice is usually less tidy. People forget dates, change their minds, skip events and disagree about names. They may care deeply about a tradition without wanting to explain it at every meal. That is not evidence of weak belief. It is evidence that other things also require attention.
Trouble starts when a label becomes a test that everybody else must pass. A personal preference turns into a rule. A difference in ritual becomes a defect of character. Newcomers are quizzed rather than welcomed, while anybody uncertain is told to choose a side.
Dating makes this particularly tiresome. Nobody wants to discover that a shared label comes with an examination. It is reasonable to ask what somebody practises and how much space it occupies in their life. It is less reasonable to treat a partner as proof that your own version is correct.
A person can be Pagan and also be interested in films, football, gardening, local politics or an argument about the best place to buy bread. In fact, a date will go rather better if there is something else to discuss. The ritual calendar will still be there when the conversation returns to it.